~L~O~V~E~ 《敏敏的聊天室》

变了。。。

2010-09-26T03:05:00.000+08:00

我最近读了些书，自己也发现，原来“爱”，不再是“真爱”。因为爱，会让人不能呼吸。

害怕一个人的时候。害怕寂寞。害怕被欺骗。从睡梦中被惊醒。满脑子的过去，让人夜夜失眠。心，会不由自主地加快速度。加速到让人快要窒息的程度。

放不开，从前的恐怖经历。那些经历，竟然能对他人造成那么大的伤害。

那些伤害就像，用了浸过马尿的鞭子，在皮肤上，快速的，狠狠地抽个几下。留下的伤痕，却是一辈子都无法磨灭的。

不闻不问，不看不想，真的做不到。却又要呈现落无其事的状态，很困难。想用快乐掩饰内心的不安，更是难上加难。

很笨。因为，看不出，当一个人做出一个举动的时候，背后的意义是什么。

从小相信，活在这个世界里的人，都很单纯。呈现的行为举止，都是真实的自己。长大后，才发现，并非如此。

越来越不了解身边的人。到底看到的东西，是否代表着同样的意义。

常常觉得，爱情就是“唯一”。希望，是“唯一”。是“唯一”他爱的，“唯一”他疼的，“唯一”他牵过手的，“唯一”他诉苦的对象，“唯一”他想结婚的对象，等等等等。。。

希望，所有的“唯一”，都发生在身上。

可是，想到他要的是什么吗？人生目标一致吗？追求的梦想一样吗？看到是拥有彼此的未来吗？

太自私了。从来都没问过他，要的是什么。更不知道，他真正需要的是什么。只以个人的方式，去爱他。以个人的想法去评估他。然后，以个人觉得他应得的态度，去对待他。

可以告诉你，当你很爱一个人的时候，你可以抛开自我，抛开所有你可能曾经相信的真理。最算，身边所有的人都觉得你们是不可能的，你还是会为你们的感情努力再努力。

为了就是换取，能和你爱的人，的每一分一秒。

不去管，未来的路，如何走，是否会一起走。。。

就在当下，能和他在一起，是最重要的。

可是，人往往会忘记当初为何会让对方爱上自己。慢慢的，会想控制对方，锁住对方, 逼对方变得跟自己一样。可是，忘了，当初，本来就是两个独立的个体，为何选择对方。

慢慢的，就会被所谓的爱情蒙住了双眼，无论那个人多努力，他都看不到。

然后，怪对方没努力，怪对方不好，怪对方没做出他认同的事。然后，爱情便会转变成恨。

从不要求对方会为自己付出，却能还深深地爱着他，到逼对方只能依照自己的方式生活，只会让爱情变淡，直到爱情消失为止。

就在现在想想看，能为你爱的人，做些什么。甚至，是牺牲自己，让对方快乐，也来为你们的爱情，努力一下吧！！！

Forgivess and Truthfulness is Love...

2009-10-09T01:30:00.005+08:00

I have been betrayed not once, not twice, but many times. People tend to define the word "betray" in different ways.

Some of the definition that applies to my feelings now:
1. To be false or disloyal to.
2. To lead astray, deceive.

Personally, I feel that, hiding from the truth, or white lies, are also a sign of betrayal.

I've recently attended a talk by Dr. Deepak Chopra. Totally find him fantastic, though, sometimes the things he say is really too in-depth for me to understand.

"I will refrain from qualifying things as right/wrong, good/bad."

It's good to be able to acheive this, even sometimes.

Personally, I dread the idea of Betrayal of Love.

In this modern world, few people are forced into marriages that are not of their own free will. But this does not necessary mean its not good.

In such a free world, people make choices, to love, to hate, to forgive, to forget... etc. But are they responsible in the choices they make?

You made a choice to love a girl. Yet you regret, maybe of the million reasons you may find in your soul. So, the question comes, "Do you stay on? Or do you be truthful to her?"

Many people get stuck in this dilema. If you stay on, can you give 100% love to this girl? Or responsibility for the choice you once made?

If you think, this is easy, think again.

And then, another girl comes along, you think you found the one, yet you are currently still stuck with the 1st girl, how?

Maybe, you think you can handle 2. Good for you. But what if, comes a 3rd girl, whom you think you are also fond of?

Then you think to yourself. "I can handle 2, I think I can handle 3."

What is wrong in this situation?

I know, Dr Deepak says, try not to qualify things from right/wrong. Maybe its ok to love 3 all at once. In Islam rule, one is allowed to have numerous wives. But, the wife-to-be certainly have a choice to choose whether she wants to e concubine, does she?

In this case, did the guy keep quiet about all the relationships, or did he reveal to all 3 of them and seeked consents from all 3?

Maybe, there is no right or wrong when it comes to love. Maybe, nobody says its incorrect to love more than one person.

Maybe...

Lets now talk about energies then, as how Dr. Deepak always relate to, since we are all non-physical, and are only energy beings.

If, the man, during all these relationships, feel peace, harmony, love and joy, with no signs of negative emotions like, jealousy, ego, possessiveness, then I think, it would benefitted all parties in these numerous triangle relationships.

But if the guy were to find the girls fighting over one of him, do you think it is healthy?

Not only the energies are bad, it might also affect his career, health, passion, etc...

And what about the girls? Have you ever given a thought about them? They truly love you by staying committed to you, but what about you?

On the surface, they may accept the way you are in order to love you, but what about the times when you are not there? Fear, anger, jealousy, suspicious, etc... It's not healthy for them.

If you think all this is love for the one you love, think again.

What if you are in their shoes? And you are one of the girls, how would you feel? I can bet with you, once the 2nd girl appears, you would have chosen to leave.

Maybe, the girl should be strong enough to make the choice.

Maybe, the guy should be truthful to himself, and be decisive.

It's not wrong to make wrong choices, but make choices that are truthful to yourself and others.

I shan't define Love. You should.

If you have done something, let the person know, he/she is defintely to appreciate your truthfuless. The ending, let the person decide.

心里建设。

2009-03-12T14:53:00.001+08:00

你曾经觉得，心情低落吗？或者有时，你会感觉不是很开心，心里闷闷不乐的。

好像，身边的人和你说话，你都会觉得很不耐烦。

可是，你却不知道，那是为什么。就是心里纳闷。

知道自己有问题，却有不能控制自己的情绪。

就在这个时候，你的火山即将爆发开来，你会把身边的这个他/她，大骂一顿。

你有这样过吗？

请问，当你把脾气发泄了出来，你感觉如何呢？我想必，一定非常的舒服吧？

可是，你是否想过，你身边这个人的感受？

你可以是在别人眼中，最好的人，最有修养，最有礼貌，最有哲学，甚至，让你是拥有这个世界所有的最好。你身边的朋友，都觉得，在你身边，他们会感觉很幸福，很快乐。

可是，你有让这位，陪在你身边，度过点点滴滴的人，快乐吗？

你朋友说的对，他们很幸福，很快乐，因为，你把你最好的一面，都呈现给他们。

有人说这句话：在你身边的人，应该很了解你，当你不快乐的时候，他们应该体谅你。

那让我问问你。你不开心的时候，应该把气发泄在你最亲的人身上吗？

那我宁愿当你的朋友，也不当这个角色，因为，一点都不吃香。

有福你享，有难我当。

你身边的这个人可能非常的体谅你。可能，他就是相信那句话的人。

可能，他心里感觉委屈，都不敢说一句话。

可是，当你心情好了之后，他又会很高兴。

虽然，心情还没恢复起来，可是又怕你会再发标，他又要马上笑脸迎人的配合你。

你觉得，他的角色，好当吗？你想体验吗？

他是陪着你度过，酸甜苦辣的那个人，可是，你有给他，他应得的待遇吗？

在他不快乐的时候，你有体谅他吗？还是你觉得，他是给你脸色看。

反觉得，为什么，他不体谅你，没有让你休息的空间，和平静。他不开心，为什么不可以自己解决呢？

可不可以，不要烦到你。

你说说看，你应该拥有这个人在你身边吗？你配得上他吗？

我觉得，身边的人，最重要。我会把最好的给他。

就在这个时候，请想想看，你是如何对待您身边的人。

他为你付出了多少，您又为了他付出了什么呢？

Cross-roads...

2009-02-23T22:50:00.002+08:00

Everything have been running extremely smoothly all these time. I am starting to appreciate the things I have, I enjoy and I want.

I follow my heart. I know I can't have all the things I want, and I learn to take things easy.

But something have been crossing my mind some of these days... Sometimes, you just feel like you are looking somewhere...

Then the longer you see, you see it nowhere...

What if you think u have something now, but will not have it forever?

Are you going to give it up now, to shorten the pain; than to leave it and be happy for now, and worry when are you going to lose it?

Hoping you are going to own it someday... Maybe forever...

There are some things that are so important to you that you start to think, if it is not going to work out, should I give it up now?

My uncle have been living with his gf for 12 years. Duing this time, my mum tried to suggest marriage numerous times, but somehow, one of the two of them at different times, refused to get married.

Just last Saturday, where the both of them were at different places, the same topic was brought up again, finally both of them wanted to get married. It seems like, they have been at cross-roads for years, on whether they should get married. But then, they finally decided to.

Of course, I was extremely happy for them, but then again...

Did they get married, because they have already been with each other for 12 years? Or because they really love each other? Or because the time was right? Or because they think it was only right to do so?

I want so much to know, does two person get together because they love each other, or because they have something the other partner has that he/she needs? Or is it because, it is a return, a repay or there is no harm to be together, or etc...

To me, I only know, when two person get together, the only reason should be LOVE. Other than that, I feel you are not conscious to living as a person.

Sometimes I think, it is not good to be an extremely nice person. People tend to take you for granted.

All your patience, kindness, well-being have been taken advantage of.

Don't do something that you think you will regret in the future.

Don't do something that does not bring you good.

Try to LOVE yourself more than you love others.

Put "YOU" first, because if you don't, nobody does.

Be NICE only to the people who truly LOVES YOU.

Bless You.

Toxic Emotions...

2009-01-15T02:17:00.003+08:00

Life have been extremely good since the start of 2009. Life was extremely smooth, maybe fantastic in some ways. I am starting to enjoy all this...

But then, after awhile, I started to think, "Hmmm... Why have life been so good? I really enjoy all these, but why?" And after awhile, I will just throw away the thinking, and enjoy every little good thing.

Then, something not very nice happen. A past bad experience seem to have came back.

And I start to wonder, must be the thinking pattern that brought this bad thingy back when I am starting to enjoy every tiny little thing in my life.

I used to think, "Everytime something good happens for a period of time, the bad thing must be following, because god is not going to be so good to me..."

NOTE!!! This is a very bad thinking pattern!!! THIS IS NO GOOD!!!

LAW OF ATTRACTION.

I should keep on enjoying everything that is good, not suspect it. Once you question "it", they will take it back from you.

Once you set on a good happening, wait for it to happen.

Do not question it.

Wait for it happily, it will happen the way you plan it, maybe it will turn out even better.

Break a bad chain from your life or thinking pattern. When you realise a pattern to the bad phenomenon that comes in your way, approach it in a different way.

Once you break the chain to this bad phenomenon, you will break the karma that comes with it. It can never form the sequence that follows with it, and it will create a new path.

The new path will depend on the way you tackle the problem.

Good way, good karma, happy ending.

Life should be good!!!

2009-01-15T01:52:00.002+08:00

Life have been extremely good since the start of the year!!!

I believe, when you tell yourself that the coming year will be a great one, it will be a great one!!!

So much fun, love and excitement!!! I can't wait to anticipate what is going to be the next great thing waiting to happen to me!!!

Partially, thanks to a good friend of mine, who tells me that this coming year will be a damn good year!!! After the CNY, I will be feeling powerful!!! Wa ha ha ha!!!

Usually, my blog will be of philosopies of life, love and things that I feel or have gone through... But I haven't really have anything to blog on since my last one...

I hope to find something to blog on... But if you guys want any of my philosopies on any topic, feel free to request on the board... I will be more than happy to share with you...

For the time being, work on your mind power to let your dreams run wild!!!

Life Choices

2008-12-26T01:25:00.000+08:00

Be truthful, faithful and responsible.

For me, once I have made a decision, I will stick to it.

Sometimes, I try to weigh the pros and cons, sometimes it's just a gut feeling.

Just like the time you fell in love. It's never about the pros and cons of being with him/her. It's the feeling of being with this person.

Once you fall in love with him/her, your heart pounds alomost every sight of him/her. You can feel, true love is not only in the mind, it's in the heart. Your heart tells you, that he/she is the ONE for YOU!!!

There are many people out there in this universe. You have made a choice to be with this person. You fell in love with this person with the many reasons.

But what happens, when you think that there are so many other choices out there, you have yet tried before?

You start to ponder, "Maybe he/she isn't that good after all, I should give myself other chances to see if there are better choices out there. Maybe, I am going to be lucky!"

But beware, if you don't find the better one, you are going to regret for what you have lost. That wonderful person is not going to wait for you forever.

Somehow, you got lucky, and managed to find a better one. But guess what, it's just going to get worst. Because in your mind, you always think that there are even more better ones out there, and you are going to continue finding the best one for you.

Finally, what happens? You end up with NOTHING. You end up being alone.

Just like food. You are so hungry, and yet you don't know what to eat. You decided that you want to go to a food court that sells so many good food, because then you will have so many choices.

After reaching there, what happens? You become so confused and spoiled for choices, you don't know what to eat. You ended up going home, eating mum's home cooked noodles.

What's the price you paid? Being even more hungry.

Don't compare your loved ones with others. You do not know what he/she have done for you. Be faithful to the choice you have made.

In life, every minute and every second, you have to make choices. No matter what choice you choose to make, make sure you do not regret or blame anyone for your mistakes.

Life...

2008-12-26T00:36:00.003+08:00

Life haven't been easy recently... Arguements, robbery, confusion, saddness... And therefore, lots of tears...

I am actually a simple person, but people tend to mis-judge my character.

I have always hoped to live a simple and loving life, but it seems like, GOD is not going to make it easy for me. Sometimes I wonder, is there something he wants me to learn? Or he is just punishing me for something bad that I have done before?

I have lost so much things recently. And I wonder, what exactly have I lost.

I think it's love. Love from my friends.

Suddenly, I feel that friendship is so fragile. When you need them to be there, they are not.

I make a point to be there when my friend is in need. But I dun see them around me when I needed it.

I know it shouldn't be an exchange. But it definitely tells you who are the ones that you can count on in bad times and who are the ones you really should treasure and cherish.

Treasure the ones who are always there with you, in bad times, or in good.

“葉問”

2008-12-18T04:34:00.001+08:00

昨晚，我去看了“葉問”这部电影。简直是部好片！！！

剧中的男主角，把练武人，应有的特征，发挥的淋漓尽致。

我希望，所有在练武的人，抽空去看看这部电影，再反映一下自己，看看自己是否需要做些心理上的调整。无论是思想，性格，等等，看看是否能让自己，更上一层楼。

永春拳法，本来来自女子。可是，这套拳法，并不意味着，它就像女生的软弱。它要表现的是，女生也能像男生一样，能有保护自己的能力，也能坚强。虽然，我们不能采用男生的打法，可是，女生能利用自己的优点，创造属于我们自己的拳法。

我们不是要证明什么，只是希望，身边的男生不要看不起女生。你们也不需要畏惧我们，你们只需要“尊敬”女生，那就可以了。

剧中的“葉問”，并有提到这一点。我觉得他说的很对。双性不应该试着如何打败对方，而是应该学会如何“尊敬”对方。无论男女，都应得到同样的待遇。剧中“葉問”，就把永春套法教会想学武的男女老少。

学武术，应该是为了学当中的武德武道，不是为了要打败任何一个人，也不是为了暴力，更不是为了学如何打架。

如果你能明白武术当中，想传达的讯息，它会让你变得一个更好的人。

爱您身边的每一个人。

2008-12-17T04:18:00.002+08:00

爱护您身边的每一个人。

无论，他/她是你的亲戚，朋友，家人，爱人，甚至是你不认识的路人甲乙丙丁，或者您的宠物，你都该学习如何去爱他/她。

爱的方式，会因身份而异，可是，试着用您最真诚的心去对待他/她吧。

任何一个，所出现在您的生活里的人，甚至只是在您身边闪过一眼的，都和你有因缘。如果，您可以把身边的每一段因缘，都对待好的话，您的生活必定能过的比任何人都好。

无论他/她做了什么，您都可以试着：
原谅，体谅，关心，爱护，聆听，不发脾气或生气，不追问或多问，
您身边的这个人。

因为，他/她心里铁定感觉到，您对他/她的包容。

您的包容，也能将他/她/它的心变温暖了起来。

您也能让对方的心里永远都记得，在他/她/它最失落的时候，有那么一个人，曾经让他/她/它快乐了起来。

不要说是一个人，连只动物，也可能有它不开心的时候。试着包容他/她/它们的所作所为，无论是好或坏。

先为对方想想，才想自己，必定能让您感到骄傲。

我们不想为自己所犯下错误，才感到抱歉。因为，有可能，您将永远失去对这个人说抱歉的机会。

每一天，您都该好好的对待您身边的每一个人。因为你不知道何时他/她/它已不再您的身边了。

Twilight...

2008-12-16T00:54:00.003+08:00

I went to watch the "Twilight" this evening. It turned out to me to be a really romantic movie... My kind of romance...

Edward Culler is a vampire, who falls so in love with a human...

The things he say, will really make you melt...

"You are my life now."

"I feel protective over you."

"I'll do whatever it takes to make you safe again..."

"When you can live forever, who do you live for?"

"Yes, you are EXACTLY, my brand of heroin."

"I couldn't live with myself if I ever hurt you. You don't know how it's tortured me."

"You are the most improtant thing to me now. The most important thing ever."

Even Bella Swan was willing to be a vampire for him.

I couldn't stop but think... Is there such a man, still out there somewhere...

Edward shows you how a man should love a woman.

He is always there when you needed him to.

He describes his love, a "heroin". Something you cannot resist once you touch it.

Everyone deserves to be the "heroin" of someone.

And I sincerely bless that everyone, will be a "heroin".

Theory of Love...

2008-12-13T03:58:00.006+08:00

Loving someone can be difficult sometimes.

Especially if you want to love him/her as a whole.

Remember why you fell in love with your special one?

When you guys were dating, do you remember, nearly everything about him/her was once so beautiful. You think you could accept his/her "not-so-good" points, because nobody in this world is perfect. But what happened after you guys got together?

Nothing they do is correct. Although they always claim, they did it just for you.

Ever wondered why?

Because, you did not fall in love with the person. You fell in love with the "feeling" of being in love.

I hope you guys can learn to differentiate these 2 things. Because, I think it's very important in order not to get the innocent party hurt.

If you really love someone, think for him/her before you.

Some people think, "If you do not know how to love yourself, then you will never be able to love someone else."

True. Love yourself first. But always think for your loved ones first.

When you have to love yourself first, then he/she will not be the love of your life, beacuse you yourself always comes first.

In order for him/her to be most important in your life, always think about them first.

Then it proves how much you treasure them in life. Because, at least they get to be first somewhere in you.

Remember, never never compare your loved ones with others. Because, only he/she deserves the best from you.

你爱她吗？

2008-12-12T01:25:00.003+08:00

其实，你们懂得，真正的爱是什么吗？

很多人以为，自己很爱身边的那个他/她。为对方付出很多心血，心思，时间，等等。。。

可是，对方还是埋怨你，怀疑你。你并不明白为何你已经为这个人付出了这么多，对方还是咬着你不放？为何对方不能对你们之间的感情，存有多一点的信心？

我是女生，我想我能为男生做个解答。

女人的第六感是很强的。你是否在说谎，我们大概都懂。只是，如果需要求证的话，可能就有点难。

记得，爱一个女人，其实很容易。只要对她专一和诚实的话，她一定能感觉到的，必定能让您的耳朵感到清静。她就不会整天问你一些有的没的。

女人，很简单。她只是希望能找到爱她的男人。这个男人是否长得好看，是否有钱，那对她并不重要。她也不需要名和利。她需要的只是一个爱她的男人，对她专一，能爱她一辈子。

很多男人可能以为，在外面偷吃无所谓，只要心理爱的是某某人，便对得起她。那男人，你们就大错特错了。

女人，凡是说的都是身心灵。她们如果爱一个人的话，也是如此。她们爱人，都是全心全意地。她不会说，“哦，我爱他，但我还是会和别的男人在网上或传简讯调情。”

可是，男人们，试回想看，当你有偷偷的做这些事的时候，你曾觉得内疚吗？或者你会对自己说，“我只是玩玩罢了，又不是认真的。我真正心里爱的是你嘛。”

当你和别的女人调情之时，您是否会遇到一个情况？那就是，女友会怀疑起你，开始问些有的没的。那是因为，女人的第六感告诉她，这个男人快要出轨了。

为何，在这个世界上，大部分都是男人在劈腿呢？

男人总不能全心全意地爱一个人。他们总是觉得外面的花比较香。陪在自己身边的那个，总是最罗索，最讨人厌。在外面找到很多很多女人爱他，代表自己还很有男人气概和魅力。在外面胡搞却不被发现的那种感觉，又很刺激！所以，他们会不停的寻找这一份刺激感。

可是，我想问问男人们，你们是否要求过您身边的女人为你做些什么？试想想看，您是否对过她说过这些话，“如果你爱我的话就不准和别的男人来往！不准和他们在网上聊天或传简讯！”

当你要求她们为您这样做的时候，您是否有对您的另一半，回馈与同样的待遇呢？你们了解互相尊敬是什么吗？

男人，不要再执迷不悟了。让这个世界的女人，得到公平的待遇吧。